Perfectionism could be a real trap… What have we done with emancipation, girls? 🙂 Don’t you think that women today are expected much more than we expect from men? Perfect housewife, who’s also employed and has got time for make-up and regular jogging… And that joy and excitement painted on her face while cleaning the toilet. Because shiny bathroom defines her self-esteem:)
I know at least few couples, where a woman is trapped by expectations and perfectionism. And those girls are not treated well by their partners, who often want more and more every day. But honestly… Sometimes woman subconsciously wants to stay in her role, because it’s something she’s familiar with, gives her safety and a (very tight) comfort zone.
I mentioned that women are not always respected by male partners. Why? I think one of the reasons is that they don’t really love themselves, so they don’t believe they deserve more. You can’t expect someone to respect you, if you don’t really think you are worthy of that.
Leaving this state of mind is always difficult, could cause stress and anxiety, but it’s worth trying.
There are few things that helped me to fight perfectionism, maybe they’ll be useful for some of you.
- Don’t focus on your mistakes. It happened and it’s in the past. Learn and start again.
- Don’t be ashamed of your imperfections, they make a special and unique person.
- Change environment. If you’re surrounded by people who make you feel low, and you haven’t got power to fight, just try to run away.
- Find a reason of your perfectionism. It’s usually hidden in your childhood, maybe you always wanted to please everyone? It’s gonna be easier to close that chapter if you understand the reason.
- Appreciate your achievements! Be proud and share your happiness.
- Stop focusing on other people judgments. Whatever they think, it’s your life and your decisions.
Sometimes we can be overwhelmed by pictures and articles about perfect women. But let’s be honest – we never know what’s the reality and what’s just a creation.
We are all different, although most of us are sensitive and it’s really easy to hurt us. That’s our nature and one of the things that make us beautiful… Even with our imperfections.